Well...I will say this. What comes out of someone's mouth makes no difference. Look at his actions....over the course of a long period of time....and you will see if he is quacking or not. I have decided my AH is full of BS! That being said...I will take those quacks at this point. I would rather be pleasant to each other (even if he is faking it) than be fighting. We are most likely going to separate when the holidays are over. So I have decided (and told him this), that his words don't really mean a thing to me and that his actions will be his actions and I cannot control those, only he can. I can only control how I react. So he wants to play nice? Sure, I am a nice person and would rather have peace than fights and horrible. It takes a very very long time to build up trust in a marriage to an addict. I have let him know I will be watching his ACTIONS not listening to his WORDS over that long period of time.
Good luck and God Bless to you. Keep posting, you are not alone!