Yes, kids can be tough on the soul....my youngest (now 25...the addict) had to go her own way....the oldest (now 28) barely drinks at all. Funny, how kids who were raised in the same house, turn out so differently. BTW....I was sober almost throughout their growing up years. Started drinking again, following many years of sobriety, when my oldest was a senior in H.S....BUT, always had a GREAT relationship with my youngest. Both girls...It is sad. We retired at 55! Great stuff! Good for you!