It's really amazing how powerful we think we are sometimes, isn't it? As if we could cause or destroy someone's sobriety by a few words....
I'm guilty of the same thing myself, fretting about whether I said "the right thing." You know what? If the A wants sobriety, it makes no difference whatsoever what I say or don't say. If he does NOT want sobriety, it ALSO makes no difference what I say or don't say. Didn't Cause it, can't Cure it, can't Control it.
I think what is important is WHY you said it. If you are expressing an honest, heartfelt emotion or thought, then yes, it was right that you said it. If you said it w/any intention or hope to control or manipulate, then it was wrong that you said it.
It sounds to me like it was the former reason rather than the latter for you.
One of my meetings is a Buddhist-inspired meeting and we talked one day about Right Speech. I find this definition of that principle to be helpful when wondering "should I say/email/write/post this or not?"; maybe you will too.
1. Is it True?
2. Is it Helpful?
3. Is it Inspiring?
4. Is it Necessary?
5. Is it Kind?