Hi Kavora,
I think resentment about the lack of responsibility and the supportive environment which surrounds an alcoholic in a recovery program is not that uncommon for the spouse left behind. The daily grind of work, house, children, school goes on while the alcoholic gets lifted out of all that to go work on him/herself.
I'd probably be resentful, too....but one thing I do know.
If left untreated, alcoholism will kill. So when my stespon was in treatment (once IOP, once rehab), I kept in mind that even though I felt he was avoiding all of his responsibilities, he was learning tools that would ultimately save his life. For that, I was grateful.
Beyond the alcoholic....
How are you? Did you enjoy the Al-Anon meeting and think you would like to go again? Can you hire someone to help winterize your home or maybe ask a friend to help out?