I know when I was drinking, I did not attend functions where alcohol was NOT present. And-When my immediate family brought up my alcoholism in the teensiest of ways, I became immediately defensive! I had no intention of going anywhere where I couldn't bring my wine! They in turn, especially my husband went to the sober parties & other fun events without me. Seems to me your mom is telling you point blank. I agree with the others, count it as blessing.
Bobbi