Wow, aren't these moms fun??? My latest fun episode with NPD/BPD mom and NPD dad was when I sent my father a veteran's day card (he was in the military for five years, not a lifer). My father texts me a thank you for the card but then sends an enormous three text rant about how I should have included my mother because she was left home all alone when he was away, blah, blah, blah, blah. This is what he does to keep in her good graces. Me, being the "good daughter" would normally have apologized and gone out of my way to thank her for everything that she has done, but this time being, happier, healthier daughter, I texted back, "Oh, you could be right." he he he
My parents are now really going strong into alcoholism and I have done therapy with my family of origin issues. I have quit drinking and my children, my husband and I have a much healthier family dynamic than I ever had growing up, so I feel more empowered than ever when it comes to their BS.