Thank you all. It is hard not to go back when your SO says they will go to rehab and try. I did not reinforce things as "our" kids...I feel now in my heart I gave/did everything. ..rehab...counseling both couples and myself...a vacation to "reconnect"....more time. I set the yard stick low - sobriety and honesty. ..which to an alcoholic may be impossible. I am not making excuses...but trying to process through this.