Oh I don't tell her! She contacts the school and gets the info herself. She hasn't done anything restraining order worthy so I can't ban her and I tolerate her appearing at stuff but after this I can't say I will keep my mouth shut at gymnastics this week. WOW!
Originally Posted by
BlueSkies1 
Stop telling her when the events are. Right after the events, take your kids and leave.
She is malicious.
Write a reply to the letter. Write it to an email address similar, but not exact. Write everything that comes into your head. Hit send.
It will feel almost like doing it.