Originally Posted by
BackToSquareOne 
Do you think it's possible to just roll with the flow and be ok with whatever comes your way or is that a very elusive goal? I was listening to a Buddhist speaker talk about the folly of constantly chasing happiness. The attitude that I'll be happy when I do or get this or that, we will just replace the last thing with something new. Isn't that what drives us on tho? Don't know where I'm really going with this, any thoughts on any of it?
If you want to get that stuff that you think (how delusional is that?) will make you happy, you have to break doors down. If you want happiness to come to you, wait for doors to open.
To an outside observer, my life looks less successful than before I got into recovery. However, from an inside perspective, I am happy, joyous and free more often than not. Even more important, I don't feel like am am suffering near as often as when I was trying to rest satisfaction from life with forceful assertiveness. Thus the old Buddhist saying:
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In this life - pain is inevitable - suffering is optional."