You are not the first woman to have a man owe her money, self-destruct himself, and those around him. I've heard many from close friends and told one myself. I recently had to file bankruptcy after a divorce that ended a 12-year marriage. My ex suffers from severe manic depression and abused steroids, which made him suffer rages (which I'm sure my drinking at the end of the marriage didn't help) Needless to say I found peace and decided the price of my serenity is worth way more than he owed me. I begged, pleaded, cried, screamed - nothing I did helped - he just had me to the point of complete hopelessness I wanted to die. Geesh I look back and I can't believe I let myself feel that way so long.
It does get better.