Those are great questions Seren ~
My daughter is now in recovery probably about 20 months now ~ She lives in another state, working for the rehab center, doing well in her recovery, has her dr license back, all those things the A's start to regain in sobriety ~ I'm excited and so very happy for her. . .
BUT her 3 children live here and are being raised by 3 other people. It's really none of my business but it is a struggle for me. . .
Maybe because I see how much our Sunshine is affected by my Step-Son not being a part of her life. Yesterday was his birthday, I took her shopping for his bday, we bought presents & made him a bday cake. We called, texted & went by where he is staying . . . he never showed up. She had a restless night last night ~ she always does when things go badly with him.
So if this affects her, I'm sure my daughter's 3 children are affected also ~ but if she comes back to the same town, same people, same influences - can she stay away & stay sober?
I'm asking questions that no one has the answers to. . .