You didn't get into this mess overnight, so it's not going to get better overnight. I'm so glad you are taking this approach with him and the situation. It's ok to come here and vent when you start feeling "squirrelly," as an AA friend of mine and I say. If it helps you to focus on your recovery and supporting your RAH, then do it! I can't wait to hear about your Al-Anon meeting. It saved me, truly. And I know it can do the same for you.