Originally Posted by
Hawkeye13 
I had a similar situation when I let a wonderful person who also happened to be an alcoholic move in with me when I was in graduate school. I ended up supporting him when he lost his job and putting up with all kinds of escalating drunken behavior. It was not pretty and cost me a great deal emotionally and financially.
Same situation here - moved in with boyfriend as a (idealistic) young woman, thinking that he wouldn't need to smoke dope so much with me around to keep him occupied ... cue two years of joblessness and druggie mates while I supported us (and lent him money, oy) until I had enough and left. Met AH 2 weeks later *sigh*, and still thought I could keep someone else's addictions under control - took me nearly 20 years to realise the only one who can change him is him, and I'm still trying to work out what to do