I don't know if I really have earned my right to respond, but I will respond with the knowledge I have gotten from here.
I guess its not your problem if you chose to leave.You are entitled to happiness and most importantly, to take care of yourself and your well being. People talk about detaching lovenly, that I don't know a lot about as I have only been to a few meetings myself, and I'm still very angry at my Abf.
I'm sure tons of regulars with awesome advice will give their input.
(((hugs)))
