I was in the psychologist's office one time and I said "I want to move away, but I don't want to take my kids' dad away from them."
(Because I am all about playing the martyr.)
And the psychologist said
"Maybe you won't take their dad away, but he can take himSELF away from them by his drinking and other irresponsible behavior."
I like the part where someone said "taking responsibility for something not yours."
Enjoy that precious, peaceful life in the country. You have earned it.