Ok, so I only have one kid...but I've found that in as much as a routine can be established...it really really really helps. My leetle one is a preschooler, so i think it helps her a lot and in turn helps me a lot! Working out definitley (sp?) helps, whenever I fit it in, I sleep like an friggin' angel!
That said...I am set to spend the haunacristmazaa with my xa's family? We are on good terms, they know what's up, even though they are all star enablers. But, early on we set up a routine so each set of grandparents get to see our child on alternating holidays.
But thinking about spending the holiday with *him* and them makes me feel nauseated. They kind of pretend that everything's ok when he's basically homeless now and jobless for years...but I don't want to NOT spend the holiday without my child. Blarg.