Originally Posted by
BrokenInPieces 
I am a flood of raw emotion right now and know that some of my thinking/feeling is irrational. But I will admit that there is a part of me that wonders if it would have made more of an impact on him if it had been me to end things, not him. That, once again, he has "control".
And I'm mad that after two years together, he dumps me over the phone.
And then I'm sad again.
My XABF also dumped me over the phone...On New Year's Eve...This time around, after we reconciled, he just went AWOL, as if I didn't even exist..So yes, you have every right to be confused and hurt and full of rage. I was for quite a while.
If anything, let this immature, disrespectful, insulting, and cruel behavior reinforce the fact that he is NOT the kind of person you need in your life. Aside from my XA, I don't think anyone else in my life would ever handle a relationship ending (or a relationship, in general) so horribly. I've learned here on SR that alcoholism makes healthy, loving relationships impossible....Breakups such as yours, and mine, are clear evidence of that, if anything.