Honey it is time to worry about you and your kids. He clearly is not worried about you at all. If you keep catching him when he falls and letting him get away with ABUSE, and that is what this is, don't forget it, ABUSE, then what ever breaks the chain? When you die? Behavior like this will escalate and eventually he will not only abuse you but your children also. It is not safe. Remember that each time you start having those codependent thoughts. He has to want recovery. His choices are his.
Stay Safe.