EmmyG
You don't deserve to be treated as you have by your husband--no one should ever be abused. Please know that there are resources available for you. You asked about making a plan, and I think that's a great idea. He may leave you, as you have said, but even if he does not, you get to decide what you want to do.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html
I'm sharing this link because there is a lot of great information here about what abuse actually is, how to make a plan, and contact phone numbers for Domestic Violence counselors.
Sending hugs! You deserve so much better treatment!! I'm rooting for you!