It is true that you have to want it. You have to want it more than anything. As of how to get there exactly I don't know. We are all different. I know for me I woke up one day went to work with a typical hangover. Something in me just said enough is enough. I immediately contacted a local licensed therapist. I also stumbled upon this wonderfu site. This site has helped me tremendously. Read and eat up all you can here. Check out AVRT in the secular section. Subscribe to the daily 24 hr thread. Once you get a few sober days going you will see and feel so much better you'll want to keep at it. Best of luck!