Thanks, Liz! It's nice just to have some affirmation that this doesn't look like recovery. I guess that's one of the things that bugs me, too, the manipulation. It's hard to remember sometimes that it's not my job to call her out on her BS. I feel like by letting it slide, I am somehow endorsing her manipulation. I have to keep reminding myself that recovery is her choice to make, or not, and all I can do is work on me.