Originally Posted by
Hawkeye13 
I'm really sorry for your situation. Your last line suggests that you are the only one who can change the situation and that in heart you maybe know that. It is so difficult to face, but if you honestly look at options, do you want to keep things status quo?
I am right at this same place. While I have no great advise or perspective, I too know at this point in my life I am ready for a change. I am not continuing down this path. I am not the one with the problem nor will I be blamed for it any longer. That is manipulation and a form of mental abuse that I will no longer tolerate. If my husband tries to start that, I cut it right off, I will not listen to that. We go to counseling this afternoon, should be interesting to see what he tries to say there....we shall see.
Good luck and God Bless!