Aeryn

I was watching these videos from TED talks (TED | Talks | List) about how society is losing its capacity for vulnerability which is the key to connection. It just sort of clicked with me that this is what people pleasing and perfectionism is about - numbing vulnerability. BUT - what the researcher said was that research shows you can't just numb negative vulnerability (shame, hurt etc)...if you numb that you also numb joy and love (positive vulnerability).

I know these are long videos but they are worth watching IMHO. I do think they are ok to post links for since I quoted TED above and I saw saw them posted on several other sites....if not OK moderators please remove.



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