kadi- I've had a long day, am about to go to bed but I will check back on this thread tomorrow. I can just say it took me a LOOOOONG time to even grasp what codependency was about. Then it was becoming aware when things weren't "right" and then it was boundaries.
I'm not saying it hasn't been worth it - it totally has, I'm just saying we advance in our own time. Some days, I'm tickled pink when I realize my gut is saying "alarm!! alarm!!".
Keep reading and posting. FWIW, I didn't know what or how I felt for a while. It takes time, but it's darned sure worth it
I will say, however, years into recovery, my cat Mots is telling me "YOU need to go to bed so I can sleep on the chair cushion" and I'm thinking he's right. Is it that he's really right or is it that I'm codie to my cat? The doubts still show up, but honestly, it's almost midnight and I'm thinking that cat is smarter than me.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy