desire12---personally, I think it is o.k. to tell him to take those feelings to an AA meeting. Talk about this with his sponsor.
I believe he was telling you his experience (to the best of his ability). Just not drinking is HARD. He probably thinks that willpower will carry him--not so--and he is finding that out. Early recovery is very, very uncomfortable. He is probably having physical and emotional withdrawl, right now. He is doing what alcoholics do--he wants to drink, desperately. He is not really trying to consciously disrespect or hurt you---the desire to drink is so loud he probably can't think about anything else, right now. This is why daily meetings---and maybe more than one each day--is so necessary in early recovery.
For you---detach with compassion and get to alanon. You need support as much as he does. Have you read the "stickies" at the top of this main page?--if not--there is a wealth of i nformation that you will need to k now.
I am glad that you are posting here.
dandylion