I am curious Hammer; You have stated that your children are your priority (as they should be), and I would like to know how you tell yourself that staying in your particular situation is what is best for your kids. I only ask because I am on the fence about this with my own situation. I waffle back and forth about whether it is better for my DD to stay or go. She will graduate in 2 years, but I don't see things getting better with AH, and I don't know if I can keep up the facade. I just worry so much about disrupting her life and causing her plans for college to go up in smoke just because I am having difficulties with the marital relationship. You seem to have it together, and with a good attitude as well.