I just read your post again. And it made me angry on your behalf. How dare your husband put upon you at this time? Really. You are having to sell your house because of HIS improvidence? Spending money as he will? With other women? are any of themavailable to care for him and hold his hand? I do not know the circumstances of your relationship with him but leave him to his own at this time and take care of your mother. Be at the wedding.