Thank you for this thread. It is amazing how God continues to show me what I refuse to see.
Recently, I have been thinking about changing therapists because she doesn't have a lot of experience with addiction. However, she has a lot of experience with abused women. I have finally cone to realize that living with an addiction is very emotionally abusive.
I, also, have never suspected my husband of being unfaithful. His DOC is pain pills which typically decreases their sex drive. However, what in the world would make me think his moral compass was ok in that area but affected in all others??? My nemesis, Denial!!
Liz, I understand the fear all to well. It has kept me stuck too. When the pain of staying outweighs the fear of leaving, I will make my move. Not a minute sooner. But I am preparing for that day because I know it is coming. I also know it won't be for one of the big reasons.....it will just that dish in the sink.....I have read so much about.