For me it wasn't an overnight decision. The pattern had repeated itself too many times, and I was finally accepting the odds of it never changing. I was losing the real me. I was exhausted from living the cycle. One day, the opportunity presented itself and I said enough is enough. It was time to live my own happy. I cried my eyes out that night and haven't shed one tear since. But it took five years for me to find my way and to make the decision when it was right for me. When I knew, I knew.