As my lawyer said to me, "I can't say that I don't think people can get better, but it's few and far between that use the help and stay clean for the long term". She was right in my case, and I wish I had immediately thought about myself more instead of him. Your health is important, and when they use, it's dangerous enough, but they cheat too and you could get all of the life threatening diseases as well. That's what scares me about so many people in here sticking with their spouses after they've cheated. All I can assume is that they all cheat whether we ever find out or not, and think about the people they are cheating with. Scares me out of my mind.