Originally Posted by
Earthworm 
Alcoholism is aan absolute nightmare,alcoholism and BPD,forget it,run and never look back. Your life will be absolute hell even more than it is now.
Earthworm is correct.
This all smacks of Borderline Personality Disorder.
Do you know what that is?
The early stuff you described is called "mirroring," part of how they suck you in. It was never real.
Personality Disorders are not uncommon as an underlying issue for long-term A's with Mental Illness (the A portion is an attempt to self-medicate the Personality Disorder).
Background yourself a little bit here >>>>
Borderline Personality Disorder - Support group for families and relationship partners
And THEN . . . RUN.