Originally Posted by
Susan80 
T At present there is a wall of silence between us
As opposed to a wall of alcohol between you? It is painful and lonely to realize another does not want to walk along beside us. It kind of sounds like you two haven't really been walking along together for awhile now.
As others have said, this is for and about you. Sobriety is a decision we make for ourselves for a new and better life. Awakening and realizations can come fast and hard when we leave our alcoholic coma. I hope you want to wake up into sobriety ..that may or may not include shared desires and perspectives with your partner.
Typically, we decide to sober up all by ourselves. Immersing yourself in a community of those walking the same walk makes it not so lonely...not so lonely at all.