Originally Posted by
Susan80 
We live very independent lives. My problem is not when he Works at the bar it is when he doesnt work there he stays there to all hours drinking. Without alcohol we spend little quality time together. He was in the forces for years, so i am very used to being independent.
If he loves you and wants to be with you he will make arranegments to see you outside work,away from the bar.
Maybe you are concerned that he will prefer to be in the bar and your relationship will fizzle out as you will no longer see each other. There is nothing you can do if this is what he chooses to do. All you can do is stay sober.
I love the quote by Wakko. Getting sober really is about building a new life not just living the old one but without alcohol