Thank you for all your support. I am going to continue on this path and hope that things sort themselves out in my relationship. At present there is a wall of silence between us as i am really upset and depressed that he does not seem to care that I want a life outside the bar without alcohol. Plus, the fact that I refuse to come second to alcohol is making me more confident of avoiding it completely. I apologise in advance as ther emay be more posts like this!! SR is really the only place that I have to come to explain how I feel!