Oh the lies, they do show so much truth.
My boundaries were very much about me. Where I wouldn't be crossing lines that weren't mine. Where I would not compromise my core beliefs. I did not set any that had to do with how he should act, or should live. I am a bit different, he could use as he wished.
Knowing that I didn't/don't have to live with that in my home, or have to watch was so much more important for me.
One thing I learned what that active addiction, always looks just like addictive addiction. My problem was being able to trust myself enough to believe what I saw not what I was being told.