Drinking has always been part of a lifestyle that my husband and I share...actually it IS our lifestyle. I was able to stay sober for 5 months 4+ years ago, but the relationship with my husband was miserable, even though everything else in my life improved, that part did not. Just like soberclover said, our life goals were no longer the same so his drinking while I wasn't was probably the reason my sobriety didn't last back then, and why I have not been able to quit drinking since even though I've tried and tried. We've been married way to long to simply call it quits. My hope is to convince him to quit drinking with me. If he doesn't, we may end up living separate lives. I just don't see how an alcoholic can quit drinking while being married to another alcoholic who doesn't...