I think one of the biggest mistakes we codies make is seeking out someone to MAKE us happy. Happiness is a state of mind. It is something you decide to be. It isn't something someone else decides for you. Nobody can give you a good life or happiness. You give those things to yourself. If you are unhappy or not living a good life, it is because you choose not to. The definition of "good" has been twisted to mean that we have material things, money, fame, popularity, or whatever the media pushes us to desire. Having a good life isn't mutually exclusive of not being rich or famous. We live on a tight budget. I work two days a week and am a homemaker the other five. We don't take vacations, drive fancy cars (all of our vehicles are used), or dine out except for special occasions. I shop at thrift stores for clothes. But I'm happy. Why? Because I choose to be. Plenty of women would be unhappy in my situation, but I'm not. I have nothing but gratitude for what I do have, and that's enough.