You're asking for a crystal ball. Nobody here has one.
You're future tripping. The "what ifs" of life are endless, not just about him, but about any thing you can future trip on...think about it!
The only him you know is the person he is today. Who will he be tomorrow? What's his potential?
We tell people a lot here something that seems to sink in on that note.
Are you loving someone's potential, or who they are today?
Why love someone's potential?
Not let's take a look at that potential that you see.
Who says it is what he wants to be?
Who says he will ever turn into your fantasy?
He's going to turn into who he wants to be, not who you want him to be.
One more thing...prison for two years, from my understanding, is not exactly an enlightening zen orientated growth experience.
In other words, he could very well come out of there worse than when he went in.
It's well understood our prison system does not cure criminals, but rather, hooks them up together for more bad behavior, demeans them, treats them like children, and offers little opportunity for growth, or skills to make it on the outside.
Of course, there are no absolutes.
You could wait it out for a few precious years in your 20's to see...tick tock...tick tock....time waits for nobody.
Let's get back to the subject at hand, shall we?
YOUR life.
Not him, not his life. We don't give a rat's patootie about him, naturally. You're here with us seeking help, he's not, and apparently in denial.
YOUR LIFE!
Who do you want to be? What's your potential?
Coming from an alcoholic family, and now this ABF that is going to spend a couple years behind bars, is NOT breaking the mold.
I thought you wanted to break the mold?