Originally Posted by
FreeTheLOVE 
I understand your point. But the problem is I want him. I just want him sober, completely sober.
You're avoiding the real question here. What kind of life do you want for yourself? Not WHO. You want a sober partner, and that's great. The only control you have is over yourself. You can't change him and never will. If he doesn't want to change, he won't. So, what so you want for your life, and are you realistically going to get that in your current situation? What are you going to do if you get five years down the road and you're still here posting the same threads? Nothing changes if nothing changes. Are you ok with that?