Antonchigurh, I dated an addict a few years ago, and I spent thousands of dollars helping him through crisis after crisis. I kept telling myself that maybe this time would be the time he would turn things around. I spent all my emotional energy worrying about his recovery, and drained myself of all my energy in the process. Finally, it became too much for me and when he came to me for help, I had to start telling him that this was his problem to handle and I had confidence in him to do what was right for himself. I was shocked by how quickly he disappeared from my life once I stopped giving him my energy and money. I was also shocked by how peaceful life was without him. Just my experience, for what it's worth.