Originally Posted by
Doubleji 
Wow. I'm brand new here & yes I fully empathize! We agreed to split as his disappearing acts & blackout benders weren't fair to me..yet he's still contacting me. I want u in my life, but I'm too screwed up right now, etc. Of course, no talk of a recovery plan beyond, 'toning down the benders'. Pics of puppies, job leads...more lies & manipulation! I envy ur strength to ignore contact. I'm still 'playing nice'. Enabling habits die hard. Stay strong & untangled from his sticky web. Xo
As mentioned above, this thread is about 5 years old. If you're looking for discussion or replies, you'll likely get a lot more of that by starting a new thread.
Posting to such an old thread tends to not generate a lot of traffic.
On the other hand,
reading thru as much of the existing material here as you can, whether it's newer OR older, is a GREAT way to educate yourself.
Welcome to SR!