Wow. I'm brand new here & yes I fully empathize! We agreed to split as his disappearing acts & blackout benders weren't fair to me..yet he's still contacting me. I want u in my life, but I'm too screwed up right now, etc. Of course, no talk of a recovery plan beyond, 'toning down the benders'. Pics of puppies, job leads...more lies & manipulation! I envy ur strength to ignore contact. I'm still 'playing nice'. Enabling habits die hard. Stay strong & untangled from his sticky web. Xo