Hello, I wanted to be able to moderate my drinking also. I absolutly did not want to stop. I actually was able to do drink like you describe. The problem for me was that the craving for alcohol was still very real and strong. On the days I did not drink, I constantly had to force myself to pick up a glass of milk or coffee instead of beer. I went through the dry evenings expending mental energy to fight off the urge. Was I "dry"... yes. But I was not sober for those days, because the obsession was still a real problem for me. That's only my experience. I also do believe, as ouch mentioned, that everyone's path can be different. So if you are moderating, and your honestly happy - than I think your winning.