Thank you everyone. And yes I agree with Pippi, if there were magic words we would all be millionaires selling them to the next group of Codie's. I just kept hoping something I would say would trigger some kind of feeling in him. But nothing.
I could go on forever here with all the things he does and I do. But in the end, none of that matters. It doesn't matter who did or said what. I wish I could figure out a way that no one would ever have to go through what we all have gone through. I wouldn't wish this on anyone ever!!!!! Hugs to you all and thanks for once again helping me have better insight and understanding.