Hi Katie, I'm so sorry for what you've been dealing with. It's got to be incredibly hard standing by holding down the fort financially, emotionally etc for you and your child/children. It doesn't sound like your fiance is anywhere close to taking rehab seriously. Acting up, getting written up, getting kicked out, going to a new one, pulling the same shenanigans, wanting/expecting you to bring him contraband....not caring what would happen to you (and the children) if you were caught. It may be time for you to be the change. Nothing changes if nothing changes. The fact he's still trying to manipulate everything in his vicinity isn't good. He needs to grow up, get real about why he's in the mess he's in, face his fears and start turning this around one day at a time. He is in the perfect spot to start the process but it has to start with him. Have you considered asking him for no contact until he can prove he's Serious? This isn't good for your emotional well-being...and you do need to protect your self and kids from the chaos caused by his addiction. Big hug to you today. You've found a great site for support.