I ended up having to leave with my 2 daughters, ages 5 and 9. I talk to both of them about alcoholism. Their school guidance counselor has been a good resource. I also found some books for kids at one of my al anon meetings. I make sure the girls know that dad loves them and I absolutely do not talk negatively about him around the girls. They have surprised me with their resiliency even now that he has relapsed.