Originally Posted by
amend 
Wouldn't you feel better having another drink, knowing there're are people (unknown, unanimous - safe) who don't contemn you, but let you delude yourself in wishing and willing for you. It' s absolutely obvious that manipulation in self-pitting and yearning for attraction and sympathy is not a willingness to change/quit drinking - fundamental requirement to sobriety. Sincere willingness is not for sale. But is achievable, indeed! For those who seek!
Best would be to ask the most involved in this matter and answer herself in her heart.
That's not how I see SR, or the OPs situation at all.
For 15 years I was terrified to let go of my drinking...it seemed an immense undertaking.
I knew to stop drinking would mean my life would change and that terrified me more.
I'm not going to condemn anyone else in that situation.
I didn't need to be beaten up,
I already had that down to a very fine art.
I'd rather share my (positive) experience .. I took the leap, it was the best thing I've ever done, and everything worked out OK
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