Originally Posted by
atalose 
One of two things are going to happen:
1. you will grow tried of attempting to fix and repair him and end your hurt by ending the relaitonship.
2. he will grow tried of you attempting to get in the way of his booze and end the relationship.
It never ends pretty when they make the choice to continue to drink and you make the choice to hold on to them.
This is so true, and so clearly and simply put!
I was a number 2. Exabf emotionally trashed me for four years, I stuck by him because I "loved" him, and then he got sick of me being in the way of his drinking and dumped me with less care than he probably uses when disposing of his empties. Not very good for my self esteem and NOT FUN.
If you can't get the h*ll away from this guy, please educate yourself and work towards understanding that you can not help him. We don't want to see you grab the hand of a drowning man who is just going to pull you down with him.
I know it is hard to wrap your head around all of this. We are here for you no matter what you do without judgement.
Hugs