Four months is still the honeymoon phase, and you've already got questions about this guy. I also fail to see what's so high functioning about him. It looks more like the express train to Nowheresville. Alcoholism is a progressive disease, and since he's double-dipping (or triple-, maybe quadruple-dipping), he's probably going to deteriorate faster than others might. Right now the future with this guy is looking pretty miserable for you. Are you attracted to him physically, maybe he's good in bed? There are other guys who can do that too and aren't complete losers. Does he provide you with intellectually stimulating conversation? While I doubt that's the case, there are other non-crazy guys who can play Trivial Pursuit with you. What do you REALLY know about him after only four months? Lust is so much different than love, sweetheart. Active users are manipulative, abusive, lying, cheating, selfish a-holes. Love is none of those things. You deserve real love, and this isn't it.