Thanks everyone- you are right. He will not answer my texts or calls if I reach out, and that will make me feel even more foolish. He will be home when he wants to be home and I cannot control him. I am just feeling sad because, well, this is sad. The plan is: get a job to provide financial stability if he leaves permenantly or loses his employment. I went for a second interview this week. I hope and pray I get an offer.
Then: either leave and deal with the custody issues, fights & worries or stay and focus on me and the kids, do what we want when we want since he is often not home. But we have to deal with the unpredictable situation.